"The spear in the Other's heart is the spear in your own; you are he. There is no wisdom, and no other hope for us but that we grow wise." -- Diane Duane
Rest in peace, Evan.
Although my thoughts are with Evan's whole family, I'd like to especially send my karmic good wishes to Evan's sister Josie. She's in a position I try actively not to think about.
ETA: More about Evan here, here, and here. These are blogs that I read (err...lurk, I suppose; I rarely leave comments); if you read the post on Vicki's blog, you can link to many more tributes. I'll add more as the news trickles out to the blogs I do read.